Friday, May 31, 2013
Thursday, May 23, 2013
AYAotD?
Must say that despite his usual douchiness, my boss (Sir Poop, he literally only comes to my office building so he can use the toilet and then tell me about his shits...) has real moments of awesomeness.
I just got told that I'm off on Monday, paid, for the holiday. Then, because the other boss (Running Man, not the dance) will be out mountain climbing next week (He's going to Mount Rainier and another one out there) Sir Poop has declared that we need to watch episodes of Are You Afraid of the Dark?... Tuesday, we will watch the "scariest episodes" of the show, just so we can see if we can find the episode he remembers. (kinda) All he remembers are there are "black, shadowy, faceless" men, it takes place in a house, and that it came out around 1993. (he is certain of that because of who he was dating at the time...) We even read all of the descriptions and none of them were close to what he is talking about. If we don't find it on Tuesday, that's what the rest of the week is for, his words. I asked him if he was certain that it was indeed AYAotD? or if it could be Goosebumps, but he is positive that it has to be, because he's never seen Goosebumps. Any of my readers remember the show? Does this episode sound familiar to ANYONE?
Normally when he drops in (other than to shit)and wants to get chatty it's annoying because he is such a colossal douche, that and I am usually reading or watching something on my own and have to stop to pretend to be interested in what he's yammering on about, but I have a feeling that next week, might not be that bad. LoL
That's all I have for now. Have a big weekend planned, but that's another post :)
I just got told that I'm off on Monday, paid, for the holiday. Then, because the other boss (Running Man, not the dance) will be out mountain climbing next week (He's going to Mount Rainier and another one out there) Sir Poop has declared that we need to watch episodes of Are You Afraid of the Dark?... Tuesday, we will watch the "scariest episodes" of the show, just so we can see if we can find the episode he remembers. (kinda) All he remembers are there are "black, shadowy, faceless" men, it takes place in a house, and that it came out around 1993. (he is certain of that because of who he was dating at the time...) We even read all of the descriptions and none of them were close to what he is talking about. If we don't find it on Tuesday, that's what the rest of the week is for, his words. I asked him if he was certain that it was indeed AYAotD? or if it could be Goosebumps, but he is positive that it has to be, because he's never seen Goosebumps. Any of my readers remember the show? Does this episode sound familiar to ANYONE?
Normally when he drops in (other than to shit)and wants to get chatty it's annoying because he is such a colossal douche, that and I am usually reading or watching something on my own and have to stop to pretend to be interested in what he's yammering on about, but I have a feeling that next week, might not be that bad. LoL
That's all I have for now. Have a big weekend planned, but that's another post :)
Monday, May 13, 2013
What's on my mind...
I was so going to just say I had nothing to report, say Hi and be done with it for the day, but I started thinking (Oh No, LoL) and I do have something to Ramble on about. Something that has been weighing heavy on my soul for months now...
If we are lucky we all have one of those friends and actually aren't the ones I'm going to vent about, a friend that come to you for advice and then does nothing with it. In fact, goes and does exactly the opposite. My best friend from college, J, is going though a hard time at the moment. HE was dumped back at the end of last year, the girl immediately started dating someone else RED FLAG NUMBER 1, and within weeks told J that she was pregnant (Could be his, could be the other guys, I have never trusted her since then). She broke up with the other guy for numerous reasons and has had an off again, on again relationship with J. (That she continues to hide from her friends and family RED FLAG NUMBER 2 PEOPLE) I'm still going with the "She's a Hooker, and is only using you for emotional stimulation", and "You need to be careful, because I think she is incapable of actually having REAL feelings for you" But he is so in love with "C" that he cannot see that he is stalking this girl, and has completely stressed himself out over WHY she doesn't want to be with him. And this, in turn, stresses me out, because I cannot fix the situation for him. His phone calls make him sound like a 12 year old fangirl trying to figure out why her Justin Bieber crush doesn't like her. And what I find outrageously infuriating is that I have given him the same advice at least once a week since last October, "MOVE ON, she's needs to decide what she wants and you are making her feel pressured into making a decision which you aren't going to like if you keep it up." And his response each time? "What does she have to feel pressured about, I'm just being her friend, I know I should move on,but, I just know that if she gave me a chance, she would be happy, why has she given all these other guys multiple chances and I haven't gotten one" I keep wondering what his advice to me would be if the roles were reversed. Sigh. There are times that I think that he is starting to understand, and even gets that he is dumping all of his relationship garbage on me, because he will say, "That's it I'm going to stop bothering you with her" but a few days (hours) later it's more of the same.
"C" is currently avoiding his calls/texts/FB messages and it is driving him bonkers, making him ask what he did wrong (He keeps tabs on when she is online, who she's with, where she is supposed to be: STALKING!!!). Her reasoning for breaking up with him this time was that "She didn't have time for a relationship, but she still wanted to have him in her life" RED FLAG NUMBER 3 Maybe it's just me, but isn't that girl code for "It's not you, it's me"? And I've told him this, and I've tried to explain that her saying that she wanted him in her life was her way of saying "Let's be Friends, so I can manipulate you into being in love with me, but I'm never going to return the favor" Multiple times I have advised him that he needs to delete her from FB, to tell her to stop texting/calling him (because he will be on the road to getting on with his life and then she will send him a message, and it's that downward spiral), to let her go. Instead he pleads with her to let him know if she still has feelings and to give them a shot. Always she says, that she just doesn't think that she wants a relationship now, because how could she bring someone on the ridiculous roller coaster ride of her life RED FLAG NUMBER 4. The latest is he thinks that there might be another guy, honestly I think he might be correct, and he keeps devising plans on how to "catch her with this other guy". He is an extremely intelligent person, so, why does "love" make us idiots? (We all know my feelings on the "L" word.)
AND NOW...
I despise the fact that I could ever take HER side, but part of me gets the no time thing, girls are like computer browsers, we have hundreds of tabs open, and it bogs us down, there is just so much to get stressed over, and he just doesn't understand that. She's 30+ weeks pregnant (she's due early July, and not wanting to put a father down on the certificate, but he is wanting to do a paternity test to let him know if it's his or the other guys), she is/was taking classes, has a part time job/making no money, and a life, I also know that J is 8+ hours away from her. Who knows, she might feel differently if he was closer, and they could live happily ever after (WooHoo), but the truth is, he isn't, and long distance relationships are no fun, especially if there is a child involved. J's problem with there being "no time" is that she still seems to be living a life, going to concerts with friends, going to baby conventions, and hanging out with her family. "How can she say she doesn't have time if she is doing all of this stuff" EXACT WORDS!!! Yesterday was, I think, the straw that tipped me over. Our conversations have read like a repeat playlist for weeks now, and when I commented that "I got nothing" because honestly I don't have it in me to say the same thing anymore, his response was "There's nothing to get" Missing my point again by 100%
Why do we do this crap to ourselves? Why do we put so much faith and self worth into other people? Why is it so hard to move on when there are obvious signs that it's time to do so? Reading and re-eading, re-editing, and so forth, this post, I'm afraid that I'm not only talking about him with her, but with him and myself, our friendship... We have had plenty of ups and downs, years of not getting to talk to each other because of life. I love J dearly, (I'm sure you're probably reading this and thinking that the reason it stresses me is because I'm in love with him and that that's why it bothers me so much, but really that's not it, he is family) he's been my best friend for so long now that I really do think of him as a brother. Point? If I let myself get so bothered by his relationship that it's stressing me out, is it worth it? Our friendship has become so one sided, that I need the answer to be "Yes" because I don't have that many friends and to me, my friends are family. And if the answer is "No" then how do I delete a family member? (That's another rant all together! Grrr and one day I might delve into it)
I'm determined to wait "C" out, she is not the first female that I've picked up the pieces because of, but if all of this lasts much longer, I fear, that for my sanity, I might be forced to figure out how to make J one of the weird uncles that is only around for holidays and you never hear about any other time of the year. And if some miracle happens and she does last for good, then I have to figure out how do I pretend that I don't actually hate her because of the shit she has put US through. Again, Sigh...
That's enough for now, I've made myself irritated just thinking about how whiny this whole post sounds LoL. Until later...Ciao
If we are lucky we all have one of those friends and actually aren't the ones I'm going to vent about, a friend that come to you for advice and then does nothing with it. In fact, goes and does exactly the opposite. My best friend from college, J, is going though a hard time at the moment. HE was dumped back at the end of last year, the girl immediately started dating someone else RED FLAG NUMBER 1, and within weeks told J that she was pregnant (Could be his, could be the other guys, I have never trusted her since then). She broke up with the other guy for numerous reasons and has had an off again, on again relationship with J. (That she continues to hide from her friends and family RED FLAG NUMBER 2 PEOPLE) I'm still going with the "She's a Hooker, and is only using you for emotional stimulation", and "You need to be careful, because I think she is incapable of actually having REAL feelings for you" But he is so in love with "C" that he cannot see that he is stalking this girl, and has completely stressed himself out over WHY she doesn't want to be with him. And this, in turn, stresses me out, because I cannot fix the situation for him. His phone calls make him sound like a 12 year old fangirl trying to figure out why her Justin Bieber crush doesn't like her. And what I find outrageously infuriating is that I have given him the same advice at least once a week since last October, "MOVE ON, she's needs to decide what she wants and you are making her feel pressured into making a decision which you aren't going to like if you keep it up." And his response each time? "What does she have to feel pressured about, I'm just being her friend, I know I should move on,but, I just know that if she gave me a chance, she would be happy, why has she given all these other guys multiple chances and I haven't gotten one" I keep wondering what his advice to me would be if the roles were reversed. Sigh. There are times that I think that he is starting to understand, and even gets that he is dumping all of his relationship garbage on me, because he will say, "That's it I'm going to stop bothering you with her" but a few days (hours) later it's more of the same.
"C" is currently avoiding his calls/texts/FB messages and it is driving him bonkers, making him ask what he did wrong (He keeps tabs on when she is online, who she's with, where she is supposed to be: STALKING!!!). Her reasoning for breaking up with him this time was that "She didn't have time for a relationship, but she still wanted to have him in her life" RED FLAG NUMBER 3 Maybe it's just me, but isn't that girl code for "It's not you, it's me"? And I've told him this, and I've tried to explain that her saying that she wanted him in her life was her way of saying "Let's be Friends, so I can manipulate you into being in love with me, but I'm never going to return the favor" Multiple times I have advised him that he needs to delete her from FB, to tell her to stop texting/calling him (because he will be on the road to getting on with his life and then she will send him a message, and it's that downward spiral), to let her go. Instead he pleads with her to let him know if she still has feelings and to give them a shot. Always she says, that she just doesn't think that she wants a relationship now, because how could she bring someone on the ridiculous roller coaster ride of her life RED FLAG NUMBER 4. The latest is he thinks that there might be another guy, honestly I think he might be correct, and he keeps devising plans on how to "catch her with this other guy". He is an extremely intelligent person, so, why does "love" make us idiots? (We all know my feelings on the "L" word.)
AND NOW...
I despise the fact that I could ever take HER side, but part of me gets the no time thing, girls are like computer browsers, we have hundreds of tabs open, and it bogs us down, there is just so much to get stressed over, and he just doesn't understand that. She's 30+ weeks pregnant (she's due early July, and not wanting to put a father down on the certificate, but he is wanting to do a paternity test to let him know if it's his or the other guys), she is/was taking classes, has a part time job/making no money, and a life, I also know that J is 8+ hours away from her. Who knows, she might feel differently if he was closer, and they could live happily ever after (WooHoo), but the truth is, he isn't, and long distance relationships are no fun, especially if there is a child involved. J's problem with there being "no time" is that she still seems to be living a life, going to concerts with friends, going to baby conventions, and hanging out with her family. "How can she say she doesn't have time if she is doing all of this stuff" EXACT WORDS!!! Yesterday was, I think, the straw that tipped me over. Our conversations have read like a repeat playlist for weeks now, and when I commented that "I got nothing" because honestly I don't have it in me to say the same thing anymore, his response was "There's nothing to get" Missing my point again by 100%
Why do we do this crap to ourselves? Why do we put so much faith and self worth into other people? Why is it so hard to move on when there are obvious signs that it's time to do so? Reading and re-eading, re-editing, and so forth, this post, I'm afraid that I'm not only talking about him with her, but with him and myself, our friendship... We have had plenty of ups and downs, years of not getting to talk to each other because of life. I love J dearly, (I'm sure you're probably reading this and thinking that the reason it stresses me is because I'm in love with him and that that's why it bothers me so much, but really that's not it, he is family) he's been my best friend for so long now that I really do think of him as a brother. Point? If I let myself get so bothered by his relationship that it's stressing me out, is it worth it? Our friendship has become so one sided, that I need the answer to be "Yes" because I don't have that many friends and to me, my friends are family. And if the answer is "No" then how do I delete a family member? (That's another rant all together! Grrr and one day I might delve into it)
I'm determined to wait "C" out, she is not the first female that I've picked up the pieces because of, but if all of this lasts much longer, I fear, that for my sanity, I might be forced to figure out how to make J one of the weird uncles that is only around for holidays and you never hear about any other time of the year. And if some miracle happens and she does last for good, then I have to figure out how do I pretend that I don't actually hate her because of the shit she has put US through. Again, Sigh...
That's enough for now, I've made myself irritated just thinking about how whiny this whole post sounds LoL. Until later...Ciao
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